| There is a psychological principle called the contrast | | | | coffee, you will look much better to him. He may just |
| principle. It is based on how we perceive two items | | | | bite! |
| that are shown to us one after the other. If there is a | | | | Now this doesn't mean he's definitely going to say yes. |
| difference, we tend to magnify that difference. Here's | | | | He may not want to date you anymore. But by making |
| an example from your high school science lab. Note: I | | | | sure you gain from this psychological principle, instead |
| learned this from Robert Cialdini's book, Influence: The | | | | of his new girlfriend, you will be using his perception of |
| Psychology of Persuasion. Anyway, if you stick your | | | | the world against him. |
| left hand in cold water and your right hand in hot water, | | | | This is a sneaky psychological trick, but if you don't use |
| and then plunge both hands into some room | | | | it, some other girl will. So don't take the bait, and act |
| temperature water, you will feel a very peculiar | | | | crazy, calling him and hounding him. Act like it's |
| sensation. | | | | perfectly okay that you're broken up. Go on with your |
| Your left hand will feel hot, while your right hand feels | | | | life. Date other people. Then, when the time is right, |
| cold! I don't want to bore you with science when all | | | | make the call and get the date! |
| you want is to get your man back, but I needed to | | | | You see, there are many people out there who use |
| point that out so you will believe and appreciate what | | | | this "social jujitsu" to get what they want. You can use |
| I'm about to tell you. | | | | it too. It's a matter of structuring your interactions with |
| Your ex can be influenced in the same way when you | | | | people in certain ways, so that you put your best face |
| ask him out again! If you have been acting crazy, he | | | | forward. |
| will see his new girl as great. However, new | | | | Remember, your ex doesn't see the real you. He sees |
| relationships are uncomfortable. If you haven't been | | | | the "you in his head." You can do a lot to make sure |
| around for awhile, and then call him and ask him out for | | | | that the "you in his head" looks really good to him! |